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Baby left in hot car in Arlington dies
  • novasteve July 5, 2013 - 8:39 pm #78727 Reply
    SoArl July 5, 2013 - 9:10 pm #78728 Reply

    Ugh. Makes me want to throw up.

    Dezlboy July 5, 2013 - 10:48 pm #78729 Reply

    Although the details of this tragedy are not yet known, it appears the mother didn’t realize she hadn’t dropped off the child at day care until the afternoon.  From current Wash Post article.

    I highly recommend this Pulizer Prize winning article by Gene Weingarten titled, “Fatal  Distraction: Forgetting a Child in the Backset of a Car Is a Horrifying Mistake. Is it a Crime?”  The link to this article is http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/story/2009/03/06/ST2009030602446.html


    meowkitty July 6, 2013 - 10:08 am #78730 Reply

    Yes, yes it is a crime.  Who cares if they are distracted?  You are a parent who is completely responsible for another human life.  You forget your coffee in your car, not your kid.

    Dezlboy July 6, 2013 - 10:45 am #78731 Reply

    Arlington (police?) have charged mother with felony child neglect as a result of the unintentional death of her 8-month old baby.


    novasteve July 6, 2013 - 12:15 pm #78738 Reply

    I cannot contemplate how you can forget having a kid in the car if you put that kid in the car unless you have some kind of brain injury that impacts memory. There’s nothing more important.


    What’s to stop someone from who actually intends to kill their kids from doing what she did? Wait long enough for it to die, then drive to the hospital and just get a slap on the wrist charge at most

    Dezlboy July 6, 2013 - 12:35 pm #78740 Reply

    @novasteve,  The Weingarten article cited previously may give you a different perspective about these incidents, the parents, the justice system etc,  if you read it with an open mind.  Please do so.

    meowkitty July 6, 2013 - 3:54 pm #78742 Reply

    I read it, I don’t care.  I completely agree with novasteve.  There is no excuse for leaving a BABY in a car!  How can you forget you have another human being in the vehicle?!  To do so is nothing less than neglect.  I believe that people who do this feel terrible, horrible guilt, and that in some cases it is an accident.  But this is the type of accident that should never happen, and if it does, is only the result of neglect.  If you are responsible for another human being, that should be first priority.

    novasteve July 6, 2013 - 4:31 pm #78743 Reply

    Have you ever forgotten you had groceries, let alone frozen things in your car/trunk especially on a hot day? I never have. I cannot contemplate forgetting that, let alone if I had my own child in a hot care. I just cannot contemplate how someone could be so forgetful with something as important as a child. And if they just give slaps on the wrist for this, what’s to stop people from deliberately doing it to get out of being a parent? I’m not saying she deliberately did it, but if all she has to do is wait for the kid to die, then go to the hospital to make it look like an accident, then people could get away with murder.

    novasteve July 6, 2013 - 4:36 pm #78744 Reply

    Perhaps they should redesign child safety seats to protect them from airbags or to up armor them so they can be in the front seat? Would that prevent this? Or are these so rare that the increased risk (??) from being in the front seat outweights the risk of being left in the car? I don’t really know much about child safety seats and their effectiveness in different locations, but when I was a kid, they didn’t have these things.

    Captain_Obvious July 6, 2013 - 11:04 pm #78756 Reply

    holy cow, hell hath frozen over!  I actually agree with NS and he’s 100% right.  I don’t care what any jackass from the Post wrote.  I have kids and there’s no way I would forget they were in my car.  My kids mean everything to me and even when schedules get changed…I know when they are in my car!…its that simple.

    Arlington Cat July 7, 2013 - 2:38 pm #78757 Reply

    I thing Howie may be on to something here.  Howiefelterup said this in the comments section
     I truly believe in most cases when a child is left in a car, There is at least one common denominator.   The driver of the car (parent) started talking on a cell phone while driving, and forgot they were driving with a child.  In the case of the father, I am convinced  he called the office, put himself in work mode, and forgot about daddy driver mode.  Have you ever been talking on a cell phone and missed your exit, or hung up, looked around and said “Where am I?”  There is brain overload when doing several things at once.  Talking on a cell phone and driving puts two things as priority, driving and the conversation you are having.   The human brain can’t multitask that well, and when you turn your attention to the road in front of you, and the person on the other end of the phone call, the brain simply cannot process well a third thing, and in some cases, that third thing is strapped in to  the backseat of your car.

    Dezlboy July 7, 2013 - 3:40 pm #78758 Reply

    @meowkitty, wrote, ” the type of accident that should never happen, and if it does, is only the result of neglect.  If you are responsible for another human being, that should be first priority.”

    How does one explain why these instances occur to very responsible and caring parents with no history of child neglect, and who always put the child first, and could never in their wildest dreams imagine that this awful occurrence would happen to them, and were aware of previous similar occurrences happening to others?  Have these parents all of a sudden become neglectful?

    Sunshine July 7, 2013 - 4:41 pm #78761 Reply

    Put your stuff on the seat next to your baby/kid; your phone, wallet, purse, office key, backpack whatever. When you get out of the car you will remember those things and oh, wait, look, there’s a baby/kid still in the car. Or put a calendar reminder on your work computer that asks if you dropped off your kid this morning when you first login.

    This is just so sad.

    meowkitty July 7, 2013 - 9:57 pm #78762 Reply

    Pretty simple answer here:


    1.to pay no attention or too little attention todisregard or slight

    2.to be remiss in the care or treatment of
    3.to omit, through indifference or carelessness
    4.to fail to carry out or perform (orders, duties, etc.)

    Textbook definition of neglect is exactly what happens when someone leaves their child in their car.  THEY FORGOT THEIR BABY IN THEIR CAR!  I feel sympathy for the families that lose their children in this way, but there is no one else to blame, and yes, when a child dies like this there IS blame.  And that’s it.

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