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homophobic message on gay woman's anniversary cake
  • torqueflite November 25, 2013 - 7:27 pm #94530 Reply

    Wondering if you’re covering a story making the rounds in the national gay press this week concerning an Arlington, VA bakery allegedly scrawling an antigay message in icing across an anniversary cake ordered by a gay woman for her and her spouse’s celebration. The baker reportedlY refunded the money but refused to apologize for the message.

    Bard November 25, 2013 - 8:13 pm #94531 Reply

    i just saw that on huffpost. i feel like there’s more to the story. for one, the bakery is never identified, and it appears the sources reporting the story made no attempt to contact them for their side of things. in addition, what was written was grammatically incorrect and misspelled. there are a lot of non-english speaking businesses in arlington, including bakeries. maybe they just bought a cake from somebody who didn’t speak english?

    anyone who lives here knows that arlington is progressive and tolerant. if this was legitimately an intentional act of hate by a business here, i doubt they’ll be in business much longer.

    Dezlboy November 25, 2013 - 8:26 pm #94532 Reply

    I agree with Bard. There’s either more to this story or a lot less to it.

    The writing on the cake was “lesbian anniversary, no ballons” per http://www.advocate.com/business/2013/11/22/lesbian-appalled-homophobic-anniversary-cake

    Very well could be that a less than qualified employee took the “directions for the cake” as the “words for the cake.”  And the manager didn’t handle the situation properly. Heck, if someone was going to write something homophobic on the cake, there are a plenty of other words more damming.

    Somewhat surprised that the story is getting so much traction without reporters doing more background. But, apparently the purchaser won’t name the bakery. Not sure what to make of that.....

    CommentBot November 26, 2013 - 8:20 am #94534 Reply

    Seriously, everybody knows an anniversary without ballons is not a proper anniversary.

    CourtLady November 26, 2013 - 8:45 am #94537 Reply

    That cake looks like a 3-year old decorated it.  I agree with Dezlboy – it looks to me like someone messed up and tried to cover it up last minute and didn’t even really understand what they were writing – I don’t think it looks like an intentional racially motivated activity.  I’d be more pissed that I spent any amount of money on that poorly done cake.

    arl1ngton November 26, 2013 - 10:51 am #94555 Reply

    Would definitely like to know which bakery it was to give more credit to the story.  With what’s reported, it could just as easily been one of the women writing this on the cake to get attention to LGBT rights in Virginia.  There’s no receipt, no name of the bakery, no getting the other side of the story.  Not taking sides or disagreeing that it’s wrong to write such a message if it’s true, just saying the story is not complete just yet.

    newty25 November 26, 2013 - 12:09 pm #94567 Reply

    Yep… it does sound very fishy. And, I just watched the story about the waitress in NY that claimed someone stiffed her on a tip and instead wrote an anti-gay message on the receipt. The couple who dined with her showed their copy of the receipt and their credit card statement that showed they had in fact tipped her and that her story was likely a hoax.


    Sunshine November 26, 2013 - 12:35 pm #94569 Reply

    Funny cake writing mistakes…..I think English as a first language should be mandatory of cake decorators….



    Yorktown Rider November 27, 2013 - 1:11 pm #94668 Reply

    I agree this is just a mishap with a non-english order taker and a sloppy response by manager.

    Reminds me of the time that my wife ordered a cake for her boss over the phone, “Happy Birthday Mitch”

    The cake decorator called her back and said, “We can’t put that on a cake”

    My wife said “no it’s Mitch with an “M””

    That was funny.

    westwilsonmafia November 27, 2013 - 2:42 pm #94678 Reply


    You use Bing!?

    We can’t be friends anymore.

    Sunshine November 27, 2013 - 3:09 pm #94682 Reply

    At work….yeah, it’s set to Bing. I never bothered to change it…. At home I use Yahoo or Google.

    Dezlboy November 28, 2013 - 10:15 am #94693 Reply

    Ah hah!  Sunshine must own this also?


    Dezlboy November 28, 2013 - 10:17 am #94694 Reply

    And drive these also?


    westwilsonmafia November 29, 2013 - 7:40 pm #94722 Reply


    Shun the nonconformist.

    One of us. One of us. One of us.

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