Whether it’s differing political views, unfamiliar customs, or simply a new family environment, the holidays can be daunting with in laws. Here are three suggestions therapist Marcelle Maginnis shares with clients to help them connect and enjoy the season:
- Anticipate differences
Focus on getting to know your in laws’ traditions and memories. This reduces stress over small talk and gift giving and helps us get to know our partner better. Make time for workouts and whatever else keeps you feeling at your best.
- Prioritize communication
If there’s a chance that sensitive topics will come up, plan some polite phrases with your partner to use to diffuse things. If need be, have a discreet exit plan such as walking the dog, going to the store or doing the dishes. Dying to say something to your in laws? Maybe let your partner take that on. Most important, express gratitude to your partner – frequently and sincerely.
- Foster sincere connection with your in-laws
Don’t take a back-seat approach with your in-laws, they shaped the person that you love. Embrace good faith efforts to engage with you, even if it feels awkward or forced. And focus on what’s going right.
Marcelle Maginnis, Resident in Counseling, currently has openings for new clients. She sees women and couples online and in person at our office on Wilson Blvd. in Arlington. Schedule a free 30-minute consultation today: www.sarahmoorelpc.com/contact.