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Morning Poll: Dating in Arlington

by ARLnow.com June 16, 2011 at 9:12 am 9,066 248 Comments

Earlier this month, Bloomberg News declared that single women had “long odds” when it came to dating in the District.

D.C. has a female-to-male ratio — 112 women for every 100 men — that’s higher than any of the 50 states. Plus, the article suggests, men in Washington are much more focused on their careers than on making good conversation.

The article’s conclusions are not directly transferable to Arlington, since it focused exclusively on the population of the District. So we ask: who has the harder time finding a suitable mate in Arlington?

  • jooboo

    the girls are, for the most part, gold digging coke whores.

    • JamesE

      how much do you make? what do you drive?

      • Black Flag

        Where do you work? What! You don’t have a BMW! OMG! Sad, to see Arlington become the land of douchebags.

        • JamesE

          3 series BMW means you are a winner at life.

          • CrystalMikey

            Pssssh…just a 3 series.

          • JamesE

            Don’t hate, it has 200 hp.

          • R. Griffon

            But then again, so does a Honda Civic:

            http://automobiles.honda.com/civic-si-sedan/features.aspx?Feature=ivtec

            And weighs less, too. 😛

          • DarrenW

            200hp…. HAHAHAHAHAa… LAME… My Subaru will smoke your BMW…

            Hey whats the difference between a BMW and a porcupine??? With the Porcupine the pricks are on the outside…

          • JamesE

            (I don’t actually drive a BMW)

          • JamesE

            P.S I will race you down Fairfax Dr. tonight at 5 pm.

          • SoArlStallion

            Subaru? I hear those come with vibrators built into the seat now standard!

          • Arlington Dude

            Trash talking about how cool your Subaru is = telling everybody how good you are at rollerblading.

          • Frank

            Most subarus are powered by rainbows, glitter, and unicorn eyelashes. Well atleast DarrenW’s one is!

          • DarrenW

            HAHA – These threads are hilarious….

            I dont actually have a car though. I live in a dumpster outside of Goody’s in Arlington and eat off the scraps of drunken trust fund kids and their late night eating habits…

          • DarrenW

            P.S – Subarus are awesome… and if it is rainbows and glitter and unicorn Eyelashes that go 0-60 in 4.7 seconds… than sign me up. Not sure where you find these items but I am sure you guys know and will fill me in.

          • JamesE

            I had a 2005 wrx, it was a nice car.

          • DarrenW

            IE: that is most you douchebags who waste your time on these sights talking about how the girls care more about what you do and how much money you make…. When all you care about is how they look and get you off…. but in all reality we all know that you guys hate those questions because enterprise rent a car doesnt pay well… but hey the trade off is good training….

            Losers.

          • Charlie

            I’ve seen enough posts from you DarrenW to think you are just as douchey as everyone else….zing!

      • Sum

        Hmmmm…I dont think its true entirely…they want someone that can take care of them, when the time calls for it… but Im sure some women do care about money n the kind of car u drive… But not all!

    • Bob the Butcher

      wrong. overweight self-entitled delusional feminists whose first question is ‘what do you do?’ spare me.

      • jooboo

        you pretty much have to be the king of the douchers to meet an attractive girl in Arlington.

  • DSS10

    Quantity is no substitute for quality and quality is definitely lacking in the whole DC metro area…

  • QPGirl

    And the guys are so attractive with their skanky feet in brown flip-flops, loose long shorts and polo shirts… please.

    • JamesE

      I wear boat shoes!

      • DarrenW

        priceless…

    • CrystalMikey

      Hey I clean my feet before I slip into some brown flip-flop action.

    • My flip flops are black.

    • Arlingtonian

      I wear brown flip-flops … and I wash my feet. But I’m also a chick. 🙂

    • Nina

      I agree with you !!

  • Cyclotron

    Ah…mud slinging.
    On a more positive note, when is the ARLnow singles event?

    • JamesE

      I would attend this, flip flops optional.

      • Cyclotron

        I wonder what the gender split is on ARLnow and how it would translate to attendance if there were an actual event. I’m guessing even if there are plenty of ladies who frequent the site, such an event would tend to have more guys.

        • Josh S

          judging by poll results, it looks pretty even.

          The real question is the age spread and how many are single.

          And of course any such event would tend to have more guys. They have less shame.

    • Christy

      Can this please happen??

  • poo poo ka choo

    and the girls are so attractive with their fat legs and being as tall as big bird

    • Bob the Butcher

      mmm cankles.

    • Tall Girl – No Cankles

      Hmmm… Napolean complex anyone?

      Tall girls are amazing… and if you’re too self conscious to find out for yourself, well that’s your loss!
      🙂

      • Frank

        Frank the midget doesn’t judge an Arlington girl by the size of her tree trunk ankles or the fact that he needs to get a ladder to giver her a kiss. Nope Frank will do anything, he has no conscious!!

        • doodly

          He has no conscious? He’s asleep all the time?

          • Doodly police

            Your constant corrections of peoples errors are quite annoying… especially since you too are not perfect and have made many an error on this site.
            I hereby deputize myself as the Doodly police and will be sure to point out your flaws every chance I get.

            🙂

      • brian

        Do you have that long leg all tatoo’d up?

        I hope not. It’s a turn off.

        • Tall Girl – No Cankles

          If the tat question was addressed to me… No, I do not – No artified legs, just the legs I was born with

          • Charlie

            do you put 6″ heels on Tall Girl – No Cankles?, I bet you look like dirk nowitzkis sister.

        • wat

          *Turn on

  • Arlington Dude

    At least the chicks are pretty easy to bang if you just tell them you are a lawyer.

    • JamesE

      I tell them I drive a Chevy.

  • Courthouse Res

    There are LOTS of attractive men and women in Arlington. However, both sexes can be huge douches. The guys are still proud of their frat star status at 29 and the women are walking around in 9 inch heels on a casual summer night. And the worst part in ALL the DMV is the, “So what do you do?” People judge everyone by their job/salary/clearance. It’s ridiculous.

    • Bob the Butcher

      I’d talk to girls who puts effort into her appearance with heels than the ‘let’s drink 8 beers and go to a pizza shop’ sandle wearing sea creatures in Arl.

    • TGEoA

      Your whole argument is void because you used the phrase DMV.

      • Courthouse Res

        Sorry, all of DC, Maryland, Virginia. Give me a break. I didn’t feel like spelling it out.

      • poo poo ka choo

        you take the heels and make up off and they are still cankle monster swamp donkeys!

        • Arlington Dude

          How about the tight boob shirt skirt things that cover up the winter hibernation muffin top?

          • doodly

            I like those.

          • Frank

            I am a big fan of those, you can often see the nipples and you know how saggy those bags are gonna be later…no surprises!

      • Black Flag

        hahaha, yes sir!

    • growl

      Shorts and heels – wtf?

  • TGEoA

    Scott McCaffrey

  • Arrrrrlington

    “What do you do?”

    Women. You were questioning my sexual preference right?

    I love the looks I get with this response….priceless.

  • Don

    I hear Charles Shulz just tells girls he pitches mid relief for the Nationals and that works.

    • Charles Schulz

      At least I’m not a virgin, DON!

  • Trademark Da Skydiver

    im just working for this bread, trying to get a slice…

  • Curren$y Sptta

    The mo I smoke the smaller the doobie get…..

  • doodly

    So pretty much all the single men and women are douchebag losers in Arlington.

    Well, that explains it.

    • JamesE

      I’m only a loser.

      • doodly

        Oh, well, then. Carry on.

    • EricP

      “even the losers get lucky sometime” – tom petty

      (even the Subaru drivers get to toss a bone occasionally)

  • Catalyst

    Hi, my name is Catalyst, 32/m, I like riding my bike, beer, hiking, and conversation. I do not own a bmw, boat shoes, and do not have a fancy job. However, I’m a loyal friend and kick a lot of ass.

    holla. =)

    (somebody had to do it)

    • Legal Resident V

      You don’t qualify! Next! Especially in a spoiled, entitled geographical area like the one we reside in, hypergamy is off the charts.

    • GilbertArenas

      You forgot to mention you work for Greenpeace

      • Tre

        Agent Zero is BACK!!!!!!!!

        • GilbertArenas

          I will poop in your shoe

  • Robert Diggs

    The problem with Arlington women is that even if theyre golden, theyre thirsty. I probably messed with 50 bitches this year…women are queens. But if they don’t know that themselves, Bobby I will prey on them. He’ll treat them like bitches if they don’t realize that they’re queens. But here I am now, sitting in the big king’s chair and then the villains—Raven, Hawk, Eagle and Crane, the four birds of prey that I use as my enemies. My life-long nemeses.

    • doodly

      You’re a real catch, Bobby.

      • Robert Diggs

        Bong bong

    • DarrenW

      Take your meds dude….

  • Arlbro69

    I don’t know, the broads up at Gold’s look pretty hurting sometimes, but for the most part I feel like I can usually some thirsties around 1am over at Union Jacks. Just straight up READY’s. It sucks though cause most of these chicks are from McLean and still live with there parents, so they gotta come back to my house, which is fine until the morning, because they won’t shut up and it’s hard to get them to leave without driving them home…you gotta be real money for me to do that

  • RosRes

    It’s good to be gay. My people go to the gym regularly, are generally well groomed and dress well. And our first questions generally have nothing to do with what they do or how much they make. ;)- Of course, this skews the odds for the poor gals even further…

    • Wes Basham

      I agree with RosRes. Waaaaay easier to just date dudes.

    • AllenB

      Yup, Arlington is full of great looking gay guys… sucks for the women, but good for us. 🙂

    • Young Queen

      The gay boys are just as big of douches as the straight boys. They’re even more obsessed with status.

      • AllenB

        No one said there were no douches among the gays. But given your name, I’ll take your comment with a grain of salt. 😉

        • Young Queen

          And I didn’t say that anyone said there were no douches among the gays. I said the gays aren’t any better than the straights around here when it comes to be obsessed with what someone does or what kind of car they drive.

          • AllenB

            I think we’re in full, argumentative agreement. 🙂

    • charlie

      yes, the good looking men are gay and that is about it. they spend too much time at the gym and not enough time on finesse. i repeat, it is NOT all about you. I have my needs.

    • huh

      So you think all gay men fit your stereotype?

  • Frank

    its hard to date the girls in Arlington when you’re a midget. The whole place is not midget friendly. I get black eyes at Spider Kelleys all the time from all of the tall girls knees hitting me in the face.

  • BALLSton

    the thing is that even if the scene sucks in arlington for men and women, its alot better than Gaithersburg, aka STRUGGLEBURG

  • Mkt Common

    Hmm, what’s with all the rancor? I think the pool of datable guys in the area is large. I meet lots of nice-looking, educated guys who seem like they would be fun to be around. But then that’s probably because I’m not on the market, lol! Maybe if I were single I’d be complaining too.

    • Maria

      You would. Believe me. You would.

      Ha, no actually there are a lot of good guys in Arlington, but I feel like it’s so rare for strangers to have any sort of substantial conversations around here, so how does one go about meeting them?

  • Locala

    I just have to say that I hate how people in the DC/VA area complain about the “What do you do?” question and assume that it automatically means that you are asking to find out net worth. When you meet someone for the first time, no matter where you live, you are going to ask that question. For most folks in in urban area, they spend 40+ hours a week at a job (at least 1/4 of your week). Making $ is essential to living in an expensive area. It’s a great question to start a conversation. If you are interested in a one night stand, does it even matter what you or the other person thinks about your job? And if you are looking to partner up, you better be able to stomach hearing about that person’s professional life. My point, not everyone in DC/VA is shallow enough to judge you on your job (or lack there of).

    • IndianWarrior

      your one dimension is showing Locala

    • Confused

      I’m a dude, and I concur. When you factor 7 hours/night of sleep into the available hours in a week, the 40-hour work week comes very close to one-third of a person’s weekly awake hours. And when getting acquainted with someone, it’s not unreasonable to ask how a person spends a third of his/her waking hours.

      That said, I avoid asking it because there is a stigma with that question. It’s overplayed, and often associated with (a) judging and (b) being unoriginal.

      • AllenB

        +1

      • Clarendude

        Just ask – “what do you like to do”, rather than “what do you do”. If they answer about their work work, they probably aren’t much fun anyway.

        • novanglus

          +100

          I’ve lived in other parts of the country where they have different standard first questions.

          In small-town New England, it’s “Where’d ya move heah from?” (subtext: If I don’t know everything there is to know about you already, you must be new to town.)

          In Charlotte, it’s “What church d’y’all go to?”

    • ButReally

      Okay, I thought it was polite to ask someone what they did for a living. Shows interest in them. I’ve been scolded for not asking people about their work, once because I already knew she worked for the CIA and thought I wasn’t allowed to ask, and another time it just didn’t come up, and these people said it showed some kind of dismissiveness on my part toward their work choices.

      But as others have said, that’s what you do for a huge part of your working hours, it does show something about your values and the choices you’ve made in life. It’s also a conversation opener because that gives you much more things to ask about and share.

      I don’t date much, but when I do, I certainly steer clear of anyone who seems obsessed with money, expensive cars, etc. Not good relationship material in my book. But I guess now I know that a lot of guys in Arlington think you are gold digging when you ask about their work life. Okayyy.

  • Steve

    80% of women fighting for 20% of the men makes great odds for the 20% of men.

  • Montgomery Biscuits

    As a member of what I would consider the more exclusive social scene in Arlington, I would like to offer my insights to this tremendously ignorant group of commentors.

    Under no circumstances should I man show his toes, especially in the presence of others.

    At all costs, one must do everything in their power to differentiate themselves from others.

    That’s why you will only find me in the finest of satin’s for casual occasions, and full suit and tie for more formal occassions.

    I would never be caught dead taking a female on a date to Spider Kellys, when I could take her to Lion Hall, just a few blocks away. (I would take her to mad rose, but the owner is a terrorable person)

    Give me a glass of Delirium Tremins and a blonde, and I’ll be set for 20 minutes, or until I finish my beer 😀

    Please everyone, be civilized, and show some class, this is North Arlington, not SOUTH Arlington.

    • Arlington Dude

      Nice spelling in that post sparky.

    • SoArlStallion

      I differentiate myself by doing enough blow to kill an elephant and then fist pumping in clarendon grill with my spikey hair and aviator glasses. Wrecking these ho’s self esteem and their bed frames is what I do!

    • Arlbro69

      Yeah I lift weights. The other day I did 1000 crutches IN A ROW. I like the feel of the pump, i also like the way girls look at me after i’ve knocked out a killer set on the bench. I threw up 205 for 4 reps the other day. Body Fat % is dropping, Muscle Mass is increasing….that’s how I differentiate myself. In addition to, as well as this, I also enjoy taking care of myself. I use an avocado face scrub at night before bed. I let is soak into my pores for 30 minutes, then wash it off. I use an organic mint shampoo and conditioner, and not one of those 2 in 1 kinda things. SEPARATE BOTTLES. I use herbal essences body wash, not because its the best, but b/c the ladies recognize it. After showering, and before i dry myself, i spray my entire body with Abercrombie Cologne. after drying, i stand around in my towel and allow my body temp. to drop so I don’t get those heinous pit stains. once i’m nice and cool, i’ll get dress. usually i’ll throw on a t shirt thats just a little bit too small so it shows off my guns. then i throw on my true religion jeans and my curled to boots that i got from nordstrom. don’t even ask how much they cost. once i’m dressed, i usually like to look in a few different mirrors, each of which i use for a different section of my body. After all that, I know I’ve done everything I can to look on point. so don’t tell me about differentiating BRO!

      • sports_tenderbro_sports

        i differentiate MYSELF by just eating stuff STRAIGHT OUTTA THE GARBAGE and listening to SOJA

        • Black Flag

          SOJA! That’s what I’m talking about!

      • DSS10

        You need to change your name to Zoolander….

        • JamesE

          Blue Steel !

          • DSS10

            “Le Tigre” and “Ferrari”!

      • burgled turds

        you’ve got more gold medals then micheal phelps in the douche olympics!

      • Pix

        Do you also take photos of yourself in those mirrors, holding your junk? I hear it’s fun to twitter them out into the blogosphere and see what kind of reaction you get.

      • brendan

        what are your thoughts on phil collins solo work?

      • NotOneofThoseChicks

        I am in tears, laughing!
        You totally made my day. Thanks!

    • DSS10

      “As a member of what I would consider the more exclusive social scene in Arlington….”

      I guess you only associate with other BMW lease holders. What pray tell goes on in the “More exclusive social scene” in Arlington? Are there indepth discussions about Axe body spray and hair products for the perfect FauxHawk? Pray tell, please share with us the inner workings of the cultural elite!

      • Montgomery Biscuits

        well….within the more exclusive social scene, we try out best no to overuse phrases like “Pray tell”.

        we also would never lease a vehicle, or finance it. straight cash.

        third, please read the full post, i mentioned differentiation. I would never have a fauxhawk. I have all my hair shaved off except a thin straight line goatee and a small square patch of hair just above my neck.

        i suggest you branch out from your ventures to RiRa and step into culture my friend.

        • DSS10

          I’m sorry for being such a rube. It’s just hard to make the transition here from Paris. I found it much easier when I moved to London, Stockholm, Geneva, Tokyo and New York, but I can tell that I am no match for the subtle sophistication that permeates Arlington like a gentile breeze from the water treatment plant on Glebe road.

          • Arlington Dude

            Your reign of terror as douchezilla has spanned quite the impressive list of cities.

          • HonesTEA

            Did you just go from trying to make fun of M. Biscuits for being “elitist” and then transition into a “I’m so well traveled that culture is oozing from my pores, and the sweet scent of worldliness is so pungent, that it will knock a lesser man to the ground” rant?

            Well played Dos Equis guy, well played

          • Freedom Fries

            go easy on him, he just came from Paris, they surrender at the first sign of aggression…

            and since when are breezes automatically classified as non-jewish?

            learn how to spell frog

          • doodly

            F-R-O-G.

          • Montgomery Biscuits

            Apology not accepted. The only Rube I like finished second to Clay Aiken in American Idol. His “Sorry (for 2004)” is also the only apology I have ever accepted, and the only one I will ever accept for that matter.

            That said, the geographical terror you’ve had on the dating world (literally) is quite impressive.

            I prefer the gentle* breeze that I get off the Potomac, in the hidden beach area I found, to that of Glebe rd. As I mentioned before, this is North Arlington.

          • charlie

            the only gentle breeze you experience is the dutch oven you and your two cats make.

            i’ve been to most of the swinger parties in Arlington, and have never seen someone with the hair styled as you describe. Maybe you go to the less quality ones — that would be the ones without the coat, shirt and pants-check station out front.

          • Montgomery Biscuits

            You can catch the villian in Satin, GONGAS. and of course you haven’t seen anyone with the hairstyle I described.

            DIFFERENTIATION.

            How many times must I explain myself?

          • charlie

            as many times as you must.
            the more times you tell a story, the more true it becomes.

          • Frank

            Biscuit, I found this picture of you from the last swinger party!

          • DSS10

            Mr Biscuits,

            HonesTEA, was right, my remarks were out of line and were quite Douchey. My apologies for my internet tourettes outburst and I would like to extend the offer of a beer if I ever run in to you in a local bar. I will say however this has to be the most myopic place I have ever lived and I grew up in a small town Montana.

          • Actually, Rube beat Clay Aiken.

          • BALLstone

            DAMN, BRO! WHAT A LOAD OF POO!

    • DarrenW

      Montgomery Biscuits…. You Sir, are the biggest homo EVER…. But I am sure that in your position you meet a ton of pretty cool assholes… i mean when you are on your knees all day it must be easy… no?

      • Montgomery Biscuits

        Darren, i’m not sure the reason for the hostility. I’m simply trying to bring to light the fact that most folks silo themselves into seeing things from one perspective.

        You are a fan of journey, I prefer to listen to good music. you wear boat shoes, I prefer to wear shoes that don’t make me look like everyone else. You wear jeans to work at Friday’s, I do my job on Fridays.

        Sure, I’ve been around the neighborhood a few times. I’ve seen some things. I’ve even worn a homeless man’s shoes, just to say that I’d done it. Do that make me a “homo”? In your eyes maybe, but in the eyes of those who trust in the Biscuit, it has made me the man I am today.

        You Sir, are clearly out of line, and unfortunately unaware of what goes on outside of the Ballston Mall on a wednesday night.

        • DarrenW

          I have never owned a pair of boat shoes in my life. Although, I hear they are quite comfortable. BUT – you talk of differentiation and sing it like you are Rupaul King of queens. Yet your entire personification is based in only one truth: Hypocrisy. I believe, in your quest for differentiation, you lost sight of reality. Your approach to differentiation is short sided and blinded by your ignorance and indifference. If you truly want to take the “high road” acceptance starts within. Have fun at those swinger parties and remember that shaving does not rid the infestation. Apologies for the hostility.

          • DarrenW

            I am only saying that you are just as guilty as any other Boat shoe wearing, brown flip flop having, Casual Friday abusing, journey listening douche… of passing judgement. It’s a vicious circle. But, again, apologies for the hostily that was impulsive.

        • DarrenW

          Brett?

  • I’ve thought about organizing some type of singles happy hour in Clarendon. I wonder if the same snark on this board would reveal itself after a few drinks, or if you would all be putting your sweetest and best faces forward.

    • Arlbro69

      who cares as long as there are some starters there!

    • Steve

      I can imagine the questions you get asked, oh wait, it does regardless of the event:

      (1) what do you do?

      (2) where are you from?

      (3) where did you go to grad school?

      This area is full of the most shallow, materialistic and status oriented people in the nation. No wonder why so many sociopaths are attracted to this palce like flies to you know what.

      • doodly

        Why are you here, Steve?

        • Steve

          Becaues I am FROM here doodly, unlike most of the nasty transients. That’s why.

      • ButReally

        Okay, let me get this straight. No asking what someone does, where they are from, or where they went to school. You’ve just eliminated all my icebreaker smalltalk questions, the ones that I use to jump off into other topics of greater interest.

        How do you propose starting a conversation Steve?

        I guess it doesn’t matter, my ankles aren’t perfect enough for the high standards of the men on this board. It’s okay for dudes to be fat, poorly groomed, smelly, and angry, but god forbid a woman have thick ankles.

        • Arlbro69

          haha, based on this comment, I get the impression that you’ve got 1 hot friend, and a bunch of other slightly less attractive friends, and you guys love to hit up clarendon grill on thursdays. I’ve probably seen you there. You probably tried to stop me from hitting on your 1 hot friend. I probably still got her number. She probably told you after the fact that I had great abs. haha

          • ButReally

            Oh, so you are a fat, poorly groomed, smelly, angry dude?

          • Arlbro69

            If by fat you mean chiseled, poorly groomed you mean impeccable, smelly you mean intoxicating, and angry you mean extreme, then yes, you’re correct.

          • Arlbro69

            also, you’re ankles are horrendous

          • Arlbro69

            also, your ankles are horrendous

          • ButReally

            That’s okay, Frank the midget thinks they’re hot and he’s much better in the sack than you.

      • Southeast Jerome

        I certainly would be smoking inside. That way, I’ll know who Steve is as he’ll be the first person to give me a high-five. Then we can be bros!!!

        • doodly

          And get thrown out together!

      • Tre

        Los Angeles, Miami, NYC, even Georgetown are way higher on the “shallow, materialistic and status oriented people” list.

      • DarrenW

        I guess you have never been to New York…. Hamptons…Long Island… Cmon.

      • DarrenW

        I guess you have never lived in Long Island…

    • R0bespierre

      I’d go to one if it excluded lawyer/policy/government/political people who can talk of nothing but their status or connections…IOW, all people who vibe on the liberal arts and sciences by default…the self-serving administrative pragmatists in this neighborhood are a drag and “Clarendon” and Culture” often seems like a contradiction in terms, despite the number of bars and restaurants they continually add to the place.

      You know, the sort that actually makes a study of arts or sciences rather than occasionally staring at galleries at the Smithsonian in order to look sophisticated or to check “culture” off their task list.

      And with that, here’s a f*ckin cat in a fez.

  • sports_tenderbro_sports

    i couldnt agree more with Mr. Biscuits

  • ConfusedARLgirl

    So a woman asking a man what he does for a living is pretty much always seen as a means by which she can be shallow and rule him out (or take advantage of him) immediately? Since when did that question stop being considered normal conversation, you know, seeing if you have things in common? Or is the way the women are asking? I am apparently clueless.

    • JamesE

      I only get offended if they ask to see my latest pay-statement and car keys.

      • Arlbro69

        you’re the problem

      • Maria

        That doesn’t work?? Damn. No wonder I’m never getting any dates.

    • doodly

      Just don’t ask it too soon, I guess.

    • Jennifer

      +1

    • SB

      I completely agree. When I ask, I’m asking to see if I find the job interesting – not how much money that person is earning.

      I guess I do stereotype based on certain jobs, if I hear lawyer, I’m generally not interested. You’re probably spending too much time and work and have a giant ego.

      When I found out the person I’m currently dating was a teacher, that was extremely attractive to me.

      So I do think asking what someone does is important. As well as where they’re from. Don’t assume people are asking just to judge your wealth.

    • R. Griffon

      You’re not clueless – you’re normal and most likely well adjusted. The only people that get offended by What do you do? Where are you from? Where’d you go to school? etc. are hyper-sensitive and obviously carrying a chip on their shoulder about the state of their life. I’ve never been offended by any of these questions, and I don’t work to save the world or amass millions, don’t come from some high-falutin NE suburb or exotic locale abroad, and didn’t go to an ivy league school.

      People are just showing interest in you, and trying to find some common ground that you might have in order to establish rapport. Ignore the haters and carry on.

    • DarrenW

      Confused ARLgirl…. you have to understand that all these Arlington douches complain about the fact that women ask what they do for living because they dont want to tell you that they are Losers and they wasted mommy and daddy’s money for 7 years at college to get a degree in communications or some bullshit like that…

      But when you meet someone and are curious about what they do so you can understand things like stability or see what your career paths might have in common… well…. better hope it aint one of these guys because apparently starbucks doesnt have a very climbable corporate ladder…

  • HonesTEA

    This comments section is a metaphor for the bar scene in Arlington. About 25 douchey dudes and about 3 self righteous females…..

    That said, the herbal essences guy is kinda funny, but I don’t think he’s trying to be

  • Courthouse Lady

    I think I’ve only seen two posts by females, which is sad. There are plenty of smart, non-douchy, good looking guys around Arlington, but they usually are too shy to make moves or they go for the bitchy/slutty girls (who are probably the ones who ask what they do). Here’s an idea: grow a pair and go for nice girls. Then everyone’s happy.

    • doodly

      Grow a pair and make the moves yourself.

    • Tabby

      They are the awkward and unpleasant guys going for the most spectacular looking women. And when they get rejected, again and again, it’s because those women are “gold diggers”–uh.huh.

      I don’t know one woman who has said “I only go for a guy who makes $X.”

      Women can smell misogynistic attitudes a mile away.

      If you are decent looking, reasonably charming (not creepy), clean, smell nice, dress OK, and can speak coherently–you will do fine.

      • Frank

        would you date a midget?

        • ButReally

          Only pleasant, non-misogynistic midgets.

          • Frank

            I smile a lot…its too bad people can’t see me at all the bars. I am going to start wearing a helmet so I have some protection when people kick me in the face at ballroom when they are dancing like retards.

          • Courthouse Lady

            When I see a helmet-wearing midget getting kicked by terrible dancers, I will grow a pair and hit on you.

          • Tabby

            Especially if you are or look like Peter Dinklage.

          • Frank

            I’m just trying to get my break dance on!!

          • BonnerJams2002

            Frank…. Im having a BBQ coming up this might be alil offensive possibly downright rude buuuuuut could I rent you out for a midget throwing contest. We broke last years midgets arm so I dont think he will be returning.

            PS bring as many midget friends as you can… we have deep pockets and wear brown flip flops!

          • Frank

            as long as we can bang the passed out chicks at your party, you have yourself a deal.

      • smells like mysoginy

        “I don’t know one woman who has said “I only go for a guy who makes $X.” ”

        But you know they think it. 😉

        • Tabby

          I know what women think.

          We talk to each other.

          It’s all about his skills and attributes in the sack. Sorry.

          • SoArlStallion

            Tabby, talking like that chances are I’ve broken you’re bed frame once before…thanks for the clap btw.

          • huge $, tiny penis

            Damn!

    • name caller

      quit hanging out at the douche-mill bars and you will seem more approachable.

    • Kiffee

      Where are these mythical nice girls you speak ok!?!

  • Tabby

    *Backs away slowly*

    “Women are wicked
    When you’re unwanted”

  • LoxyBrown

    I would totally go to a arlnow singles event. It sounds hilarious and train-wrecky. Asking a potential mate what one does for a living does not make her a superficial douche. Being defensive about one’s career choice, be it because of unhappiness, or because one is already convinced that the question comes from a ‘gold digging coke whore’ or ‘overweight self-entitled delusional feminists,’ doesn’t sound like it would lead to dating success. If you’re in a self-loathing, insecure, hateful place, wha are you trying to attract?

    On a first date, I once asked a guy about his family. He snapped, “Don’t you think you’re being a bit nosey?” Uh, okay….

    • Tabby

      Maybe he already had one. 🙂

      Like the man who showed up to take me out, still wearing his wedding ring. “Oh, I just saw my children, and I didn’t want to upset them by taking it off.”

      Hahahaha!

      • SoArlStallion

        tabby, I remember you now! I took a picture of you when you were going to the bathroom after I broke your bed.

      • DSS10

        FWIW, I met a woman, not to long ago, who had her wedding and engagement ring fall out of her pocket when she pulled out her car keys….pretty gross, eh…

        • Tabby

          Yea, they’re out there too. Why do most people bother getting married? Because it’s what society expects.

          • DudeGuy

            HA! One too many failed marriages?

            Problem is that some people think marriage is what is good for them now and a little bit down the road. I think if you look at it as team-work and support FOR-EV-ER it will be easier to maintain that. I have tons of friends that have broken relationships because they are out to get what they can this month or this year. I am not saying don’t date around but look at it as an investment and teamwork because no one wants to be 50 years old poping VIAGRA before they go to a sad/damaged singles mixer…. and if they do.. gross

    • Umm

      Too many guys in Arlington/ District seem a bit paranoid about the occupation question and gold diggers. That assumption so old school. I make my own money, thx. If I ask about work, its simply because I’m interested in your life and interests.. and some of that comes through in where one chooses to spend a lot of their time and energy. Doesn’t really matter what he does, just wondering what he is into. On the other hand, anyone who assumes I’m a gold digger is welcome to find someone else.

      • Arlbro69

        BORED!

      • James

        I like your comment…Now that’s a thoughtful Lady…

  • sports_tenderbro_sports

    bamas just be straight up uninteresting, thats the damn problem. simple-ass bamas.

  • Wale

    I just love those AMBITIOUS GIRLS. Stand up and shout it out if you’re a girl who is #selfmade! I love it when a girl gets an education, is classy, and finds a job. Tweet @ me if you think youre AMBITIOUS.

    • broken lilly

      I broke my [email protected]!N@ being ambitious…a pile of coke the size of mt everest and 4 mollys later I was the front car on 23 person train.

  • LilCorn

    im just trying to meet a girl who listens to Quasimoto and The Cool Kids…

  • CornInTheTurd

    I was wondering if there are any Ashburn like swingers parties in Arlington? Naked Parties? Watch Parties? Bang Bang Parties? Mud Parties? Floss Parties?

    • Frank

      What about Midget parties?

  • Anders Cole

    I think women in the DC area are amazing. They’re independent, they pay their own rent, they work hard, and they enjoy having a good time.

    My favorite bar is Sign of the Whale. The music is amazing, there are always a ton of beautiful girls there, and the bartenders seem so cool. That place is great. Are there any places like that in Arlington?

    Also, I tend to find that when I walk around with my toy poodle around Quincy Park, girls are always so excited to see her, and pet her. I have yet to have one of these girls speak to me, but I’m waiting til the next time they pet the dog, and then I think we’ll be able to laugh about how its like deja vu.

    I’m not like most guys. I want to fall in love. I’m not interested in this “one night stand” business. Its not for me. When I meet the girl of my dreams, I will treat her like a princess, not because she demands it, but because she deserves it.

    I hope everyone looks at the positive side of things more, I think you’d be surprised at how it makes you feel.

    • sports_tenderbro_sports

      dude, Sign of the Whale f—ing SUCKS. Mad Hatter is way better. The new one. Its the only place i can comfortably stand in a room wearing a white blue-striped button down, A&F jeans, and diesel sneakers, drink a miller lite, and awkwardly stand next to a table of people who are having a dining experience of designer hot dogs.

    • BonnerJams2002

      ms cole…. ur so off course its ridic!

      • Anders Cole

        This is exciting. Matt Bonner has joined us on the message boards. Is your name a play on the 40 year old Virgin “BonerJams” if so, touche.

        I will have to disagree though. I believe the course I’m on has lead me to happiness. Yea, I live alone. Yea, I have a toy poodle. Yea, I’m a guy that like The Notebook. So what?

        If that’s weird or off course then so be it. I like the course I’m on, and definitely won’t change it for some 8th man from a Spurs team that couldn’t even beat the Grizzlies.

        • Learn…

          …to spell!

          Past tense is “led,” not “lead.” The latter is either present-tense (rhyming with “feed”) or the metal whose shavings evidently were prevalent in your childhood home.

          It’s also “yeah,” not “yea”–which is the opposite of voting nay.

          • Anders Cole

            You should worry less about my spelling, and more about your overbearing attitude. Its not making a lot of friends I would assume.

    • SoArlStallion

      You gotta roll up on ho’s, give ’em a little of the dust, then treat them like the dirt on your shoes. Your unicorns and rainbows attitude guarantees me you have some sweaty palms.

      • Arlbro69

        Bro, I like your style. Me and some of my bros have been lookin to add another wing to the squad. Which gym do you work out at?

    • FunnyMunny
  • BonnerJams2002

    Frank.. Let me RENT U!!! MIDGET THROWING CONTEST

  • doodly

    I think these comments show the women should “win” this poll hands down.

    • anonymous

      you should lose some weight and get a better attitude

      • doodly

        You sound like you think I’m a girl. I’m not, dumbass. I’m the mature guy in the room watching juvenile douches act like idiots and then wonder why they keep striking out with the chicks.

        • Lou

          You sound old.

    • Umm

      +100

  • charlie

    will this be the first time over 200 for arlnow?

    my pick up line of the year… “i don’t respond to arlnow…”

  • Thompsons Waterseal

    The first question I am always asked is the size of my penis. If I answer truthfully, their eyes usually grow very wide and then look immediately down to my crotch. Then they go over to their friends, whisper in their ear, and then come back to me very flirtily. I wish I could be judged for my personality.

  • Jorge

    Arlington is filled with douchebags, and the women, fall for them…it’s bizarre.
    Yeah, BMW used to have this ecclectic style and these douches buy these cars,

  • KYS

    The real problem is the girls are too EASY and guys are LAZY so they take it!
    men you have brought this on yourself!

  • wat

    Dating for Women:
    Wear skirt or low-cut top
    Receive complements, get men asking for your number, men buying you drinks

    Yep, sounds like the hard life.

  • LoxyBrown

    @wat Women want to be treated with respect by someone with manners, not to be paid in free drinks for the opportunity to be ogled. We’re not for sale.

    • SoArlStallion

      If you’re not for sale quit dressing like you’re for sale

    • Southeast Jerome

      keep telling yourself that sister. if you werent for sale, you wouldnt require men to purchase you rings for thousands of dollars for the right to have you “own” us

    • Arlbro69

      Loxy, your statement is so blatantly false, it hurts my soul that you believe that. Women don’t want to be treated with respect. Every time a guy is nice, and honest, you make fun of him or take advantage of him. That’s why I just tell you how ugly your shirt is, or make backhanded comments about how “cute” your love handles are.

      With that alone, i’m pretty much guaranteed some mouth stuff.

      • doodly

        Some women are nice, friendly, and want to be treated with respect. Some are belittling bitches or gold-diggers.

        Some men are nice, honest, and respectful. Some are douchebags and a-holes.

        The trick is matching them all correctly, that’s all.

        • Arlbro69

          The real trick is mentally disabling the nice girls into not knowing how to interact other than to remove articles of clothing.

          • doodly

            That’s where shots at Mr. Day’s comes in.

    • James

      It’s not what a person does. It’s who they are. I ask a woman the kinds of things she likes to do for enjoyment. ……I purposely go into places under-dressed just for reaction…It’s going to take more than a smiling hello to get me in bed with you…She must earn the right to be with me. I’m not for sale….

  • Charlie

    200!

  • LoxyBrown

    I do not dress as though I am for sale, and your insinuation that I do (or that all women do) is insulting. Maybe if you didn’t have such a s—-y attitude towards women, you would like us more and resent us less.

    • SoArlStallion

      if your buttons werent so easy to push this wouldn’t be so fun.

    • Garth

      I like turtles.

  • Jordan

    Do people still date offline?

  • mclovester

    This is a town of 6.5’s – weak sauce.

  • arlingtonian_guru

    I’m amazed but the comment. I would agree on some of the statements but I still like to people there are good people in Arlington like myself. I always stand up for Arlington and agree there are some jerks and easy girls but there are some rare girls or guys that are worth it. Finding them……is the difficult part.

    It’s not about what salary/job/clearance you have. It’s if your not a jerk and have a good personality that matters to me. Then again, I was told I wasn’t normal and people are always surprised I’m single.

    BTW, never assume because a girl is good looking and confident that she is taken. just a suggestion.

    • Arlbro69

      I’m not surprised you’re single. You sound really independent (code for self righteous) and I’ll be the judge of whether you’re good looking, that’s not really a statement you can make about yourself.

    • TS/SCI makes me randy

      I only bang dudes with TS/SCI. You gotta be a complete idiot not to.

  • James

    Women like nice items (cars, clothes, house)….etc. I love walking done the streets seeing women of all shapes, sizes, fit, trim, plus-size. They all are friendly and have that twinkling eye for good taste and quality. They all love to dress and look GQQD!!!

    I don’t get caught up into mat’l things. My ’98 Accord is Bold Mature Wise (BMW). What I do or own does NOT define my person. If that is her measure, what a shallow woman.

    • Lou

      Women do get caught up in the material things though. I get a lot less interest from girls on the street since I stopped wearing my Rolex.

      • Maria

        Maybe some, but I can honestly say I can’t think of one time I ever noticed a guy’s watch. I wouldn’t know a Timex from a Rolex.

        • Maria

          And, in fact, I find myself less attractive to guys with flashy, expensive things (cars, sunglasses, etc.). So you know, as a few people have pointed out… not all women are materialistic and not all men are douchey. I guess we just all manage to keep meeting the type of person we DON’T want more than the type we do 🙂

          • Maria

            Er… I mean, less attractED to those guys. Though maybe I’m less attractive to them too?

        • Lou

          Can you spot a fake LV?

          • Maria

            Not a chance. I do not enjoy the way those “designer” bags look either.

      • Tabby

        At which street corners are you hanging out?

  • Mickey

    From what I have seen, the women are great: Good looking, well dressed, excellent education, clean, etc. The “men” are unshaven on at least the weekends, unkempt hair and clothes, and are “metrosexual”….i.e. homosexual wannabees. The biggest collection of wimps I have seen. The ratio of women to men is not 112 to 100, it is more like 112 to 20 which causes a problem. Women want to marry MEN, not wimps who don’t get a shave and a haircut.

    • James

      ThanQ U, Mickey I agree….Guys, you need to step your game up!!!

    • Mead

      The last ho I picked up complained that my junk was shaved. A guy can’t win.

  • Aubrey Graham

    I’m just sayin’ you could do better. Tell me have you heard that lately?

  • Vinh An Nguyen

    This thread has to hold the record on ARLnow for most uses of the word “douchebag” and its various forms.

  • Trademark da Skydiver

    Skydiver, I’m back! Jumping out the 747 with no parachute pack. JETSFOOL.BLOGSPOT.COM

  • Vik

    There are plenty of attractive women in Arlington, but I agree with previous comments in that if you don’t fit a certain stereotype, things could be a bit tough for a guy. It could very well be the case for ladies, too.

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